Life: January 2005 Archives

The night was September 7th, 2001.

I had been living in Hoboken for about 7 years, and life was good. My regular bar haunt was The Farside, where I knew quite a few of the regulars and had become friendly with the bartenders and owner - this is very helpful for your youthful alcoholic to get cheap booze. It was another typical Friday night at the bar, just getting drunk with friends at the local pub.

Around 1 am I decided to leave the pub and go home. I was fairly intoxicated, but not drunk. Everyone knows their limits, and I was just 'feeling good', but I was in control and about 3 shots away from being smashed. You get the idea.

Now my apartment is close to the Farside, only about a 3 block walk away from Washington Street. I started to head back, and I was about 50 feet from my house when I noticed something strange.

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I started to edit and add text to a script that I have been writing for the last 2 years.

I don't take it tremendously seriously, but I enjoy the theraputic benefits to it.

The script is the factual / autobiographical account of one of my relationships, along with some creative insight and fiction. It deals with the subject of "game playing" in relationships and also pokes a lot of fun at the subject.

I was reading over some of the stuff I had written and one thing always jumps out at me.

Its how women, many women who I have known over the years, who have serious problems when it comes to properly breaking up with guys.

Far too often I have known women who simply don't cleanly break things off with a guy. They don't say "Its OVER. I don't want to see you anymore."

A lot of times its "I still want to be friends." - and the women are genuine about this. They do want to be friends. They want to have the guy as a boyfriend, sans sex.

The problem is that most guys don't think that way. If a girl that they still like/love is giving them the time of day - they are going to imagine that there is still a chance with her (chance = chance of getting sex). He will still call, and still email and still want to see the ex-girlfriend even if she is dating other people.

I don't know how many times I get from girls who tell me...

I was watching VH1 last night, I think its VH1 Classic or something. They have a show called "The Alternative".

Its basically the same format of 120 Minutes from the old MTV days, and they play some hits & some misses of the 70's, 80's and 90's rock "alternatives" that I absolutely love.

I have this at #2 on my Tivo list right behind "Lost".

Anyhow, i'm watching them play some standard videos, like The Cure, The Smiths - some old one hit wonders from Soup Dragons and The Farm - then comes on a video of a band I never heard before...

My Bloody Valentine

As soon as the song starts I stop what i'm doing and watch the TV. I can't believe what i'm hearing. It was like discovering old book or watching a movie from the past - and my first thoughts were:

"I love this song - how come I never heard of this band before?"

The song was "Only Shallow" from the band's CD "Loveless". It was released November 1991...and I know exactly where I was...

Florence, Italy.

There would have been no chance that I would have seen this video on MTV because Italy was like being in a time vacuum. I didn't have access to any pop culture from September-December 1991. I'm sure when I returned in January 1992 from studying abroad that I could have seen or heard this song - but still...I didn't.

The song is a cool mix of warped guitar riffs, rat-a-tat drum beats and a harmonic blend of vocals (you won't actually hear the words, its very much like they made their vocal tracks like another instrument) that sounds similar to many things I have heard before in the alternative scene (for some reason Cocteau Twins & Smashing Pumpkins both come to mind when I listen to the song - but each artist is much lighter than MBV).

After the video ended I still was like, "What the hell was that?" I still couldn't believe I just heard that song - I was floored on how much I liked it. My only complaint about the song is that it can somewhat drone on - it seemed like a very long song that could have been cut down 25% of its song length.

I just hope that tonight I can download it from ITunes and listen to it again with my headphones. I don't know if you have done this, but listen to a song on the radio or whatever - then grab a pair of $100 headphones (you know the funky 70's looking types from Bose or Sony), and listen to the song again. You will realize how many subtle changes there are with a song.

I did pick up one last tidbit of information from The Alternative. From what I heard - My Bloody Valentine would spend so long in the studio that their label would release their songs piecemeal on EP's, rather than waiting for the album to be completed. I am guessing the band were either perfectionists or just really bad when it came to making up their mind on the final sound of a song.

After a lot of thought, I decided to bite the bullet and jump into the housing search.

Step one was to get pre-qualified for a mortgage. One of my previous roommates, Jen, works in the industry - so I asked her about helping me with that step.

Step two is to check out the market. I despise the thought that i'm buying a condo that was worth 50% of its price only a few years ago, because of supply and demand. I feel like I missed the boat on this one, only because I still think that we are in a housing bubble that is about to burst.

I will certainly expect the day after I close on my house that the market collapses and I watch the value of my condo drop 25-35%. That is the kind of luck I have.

My roommate Kristen has a friend who works in real estate and she has a fair understanding of what I am looking for - she is going to peek at a few places (she told me how she LOVES to look at condos...) and help me find a place that I like. Very cool of her, since I am terrible at getting motivated over this.

I enjoy the idea of finding a fabulous place, but really don't like the whole PROCESS to going out and seeing some depressing overpriced condos.

Its like shopping, for me. I hate browsing, trying things on, and looking around.

I like to see something (either in print or whatever) ahead of time, know what I want - and THEN go to the store and buy it. To me, shopping and browsing and trying things on is like trying to use your feet to eat food. Sure, I probably could learn how do do it - but the whole process of learning it doesn't appeal to me.

I'm still not excluding buying a place in NYC, Kristen is really jonesing to move into NYC and keeps sending me "starter condo's" which are like 450k each.

Can you imagine? I "starter condo" which is nearly half a million...christ. In any other city, these starter condo's would be worth maybe $180k. Or, if you moved into the Philly suburbs you could get a very nice place to live at the same amount.

More than likely i'd like to stay in Hoboken...I think I would get a bit more home for my money here (size, amenities, extras).

Also this move brings out something about me that I realize about myself.

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1. Popcorn popped in the fireplace.
2. Hot chocolate on a cold, snowy day - especially after a snowball fight or a sled ride.
3. The feeling after you got off the school bus on the last day of summer vacation - it was like you won the lottery.
4. Being chased by Leia's 7 Afgan hound puppies, who want nothing more than nip at your shoelaces and lick your face.
5. Rollerskating in the cul-de-sac in front of our Richboro house in Tanyard Farms. We used to make it our "roller rink" - we would set up a boom box to play our music & get lunch from WaWa. My favorite - Ham & Cheese (white, not yellow - thank you) on a round deli roll with yellow mustard.
6. Playing every sport known to man, and some invented by us.
7. "Pool Hopping" - warm summer night, and you climb someone's fence and slip into their pool to cool off. Alternatively, everyone rushes the neighbor's pool, doing cannonballs into them and running away when they turn the lights on after waking up.
8. Dad coming home from one of his office trips and giving all the kids presents from whatever city he visited.
9. Lying outback on a cool, spring morning on the patio couch. The cushins were black, and would absorb the sunlight and get toasty. So it was like lying on a warm bed, it would feel great for about 10 minutes.
10. Making toy rockets & firing them far into the sky. I was doing stuff like this at 11 years old, I couldn't imagine a parent letting an 11 year old now-a-days do that on their own. My rockets would go about 500 feet into the air, deploy a parachute, and land safely (depending on wind speed - many a day running across fields chasing those things!).

I got an email on 12/31 from Kristen:

"Wanted to know if you'd be interested in going to see a taping of Last Call with Carson Daly on Tuesday the 4th. Don Cheadle (Ocean's 11/12 and the new movie Rwanda) and one of your "Lost" boys, Ian Somerhalder are his guests...."

My response:

"Hell ya"

Props to Kristen, its a very cool idea. Come on - how often do you go out to see a TV show in NYC? I'll bet some people reading have never done it. If you haven't now you get to see why more people should avoid doing this - at least with Carson's show.

This year marks my 10th year in Hoboken.

As many of you may have learned, no matter how many years a person lives in Hoboken will they ever really be considered a Hobokenite. The "BnR" (Born and Raised) residents have a tendancy to look down upon the new blood that moves into this town. Of course once their families were new here, unless we have some Lenni Lenape Indian residents who can pick on the BnR's.

I'm at a point right now where I am unsure what I want to do.

My roommate, John, is moving out soon to move in with his parents and help them during his father's illness. I'm starting to think, once again, of my options. I can...

-Stay at current apartment and get a new roommate.
-Move out and rent an apartment in Hoboken
-Move out and rent an apartment in NYC
-Move out and buy an apartment

Each has its pro's and con's.